World on mute for a while..

Time: 10:44am

Place: CP, Delhi.


A bright morning with a little sprinkle of the heat and breeze and it seems to be an unusual day (Just to me). Sitting under a tree with a book in my hand and my earphones plugged in, I decided to update my words.
It is one of the busiest place in Delhi, yet everything seems to be on mute. All I could feel is the gentle breeze embracing me and a bit of heat patting my hand through the little gap in the branches. Right now I feel disconnected from the world and trust me it feels good but it also makes me realize out of no where how socially awkward I am.
It is absolutely surprising how this place looks so calm right now. Okay! I guess it’s my earphones that’s making me feel like everything around me is on mute (Practical Realization).
Delhi is indeed a beautiful place for people with different interests and aspirations. Unbelievably twenty years now and I have never managed to keep myself intrested in myself,  forget about anybody else. Time spent alone makes a person to discover the concealed interests and skills. Most importantly I got to know my music playlist more. I found songs that I did not even know  I had. Woah! Too much discovered today. “Time spent alone results in discovering yourself”. True, absolutely true. Hopefully I’m finding myself intrested in myself now. How strange is that!! Haha. Anyway now that I know I’m socially awkward and I can find tranquillity and merriment all by myself, I also witness the day to be awesome.
BRIGHT DAY IN THE MUTED WORLD!!!

[This experience is different. Sitting here in this busy city amidst all the noise, I found the place muted and calm. So I wrote believing that the rest is still unwritten.   – Evlyn] 

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ZEALOUS SUNSHINE: DISCOVER THE LOST CHILD IN YOU….

Hey there!! G’day greetings. So today’s post is an inspiration from a picture which I will be inserting with this post. This photograph is clicked by my friend and also I’ll put down his Instagram details so that you could find more intriguing pictures like this in his account.

Photo Courtesy: SAJAL EAPEN

Link to his account: https://www.instagram.com/sajal_eapen/?hl=en

Have you ever thought that days were more euphoric, contented and satisfying as a kid? I did and I almost do it every day now. Those were the days filled with lot of emotions with a fun factor hidden behind everything, totally carefree. We all are born with a complete understanding of fun, which seems to fade over time. Every child is an inspiration and so is every act they do. If we all were totally zealous and enthusiastic in our children phase, then why not know?

If you look at this picture, this adorable looking kid seems to be totally carefree, smiling at unfamiliar people and yeah he did pass a smile on. How cute is that? The brightness in his eyes totally blew my mind off and that smile, I could probably not forget it.

They make every task bright, fun, gleeful and even chaotic. I personally feel that anything can be learnt and achieved at any age and break the stereotype. Everyday something new can be learnt, like new words and facial expressions but this time try to learn it from a kid. Aren’t we the ones who tell our kids that ‘learning is fun’? Look at us, we adults are so much affixed to our problems and worries that we forget that we can conceal them with the happy days of our life. I would rather say we are too much addicted to worrying about the imminent time which never ever exists in the present. Kids don’t, they live the moment and we should decisively learn this art of living from them.

I would narrate a short memory from my childhood days just to elaborate what fun was to me. When I was 9 years old, the only friend I managed to have near my place is Abhilasha (Minnie, grown up to be a gorgeous young lady now). I managed just one friend because we were the only kids in the campus, rest all were too old for us to make friends with. So this festival HOLI came every year and we didn’t even bother for once that we are alone. We were filled with so much joy that we would go for our small little colour shopping next to our place and buy cool little stuffs for holi. The infectious fun she had was too amazing, it made me to fall in love with the madness she had. We celebrated holi with each other, yeah just the both of us and never got bored of each other. There was too much positive vibes around us that we didn’t ever feel alone. We enjoyed the moment with each other, we played, we laughed, we ran, we jumped and most importantly we enjoyed each other’s company. 

This is what life is all about. Enjoy each other’s company. Had we sulked that moment that we are alone, we would have not had this happy ever cherishing memory. My exact point is why not continue to be the old us? Why don’t we enjoy the madness? 

The principal key to live life as a kid is to get out of your comfort zone and try new things and we all should evidently stop being so much self-conscious. Make it a point to smile more often and sulk little. Slow down, take your own time recreating and enjoying your own life. If you think it isn’t that bad and is not going to hurt you emotionally, go for it.  Fun doesn’t come with a bunch of rules.

Decide to rediscover your madness, unlock your optimism and treat responsibility and work like a fun task. If I had to list out few fun things to find the lost kid in me and feel the liberation, I would say…

  • Giggle more often with friends
  • Trust good things will happen
  • Spread love and joy
  • Run, jump and even crawl {only if needed ;)}
  • Wake up every day believing it to be the first day of your life
  • Jump over puddles
  • Say sorry, please and thank you
  • Be the king or queen of your kingdom
  • Satisfy yourself
  • Smile at people
  • Give warm hugs to your friends
  • Laugh at your own unique sense of humor
  • Sing out loud
  • Wear hot neon pink pants

Just kidding ;). The last point actually doesn’t make any sense.

It’s time you realize your natural zeal and energy have totally lost their spell. So waiting for what? Find your sunshine and enjoy being a kid again.  Try to step out of your self-esteemed mode and you will be surprised to find how free and liberated you feel. Never forget to pick ideas from kids to add more fun to your daily life.

Live everyday with great joy and be grateful for it. LIVE IT NOW OR NEVER.

 

A Voyage Discovering Yourself..

Hey Guys! I am back with another post. I know I’m posting after so long and so many of you have been asking about it. I apologize for the delay and I’ll make sure I write often and post regularly.

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So, Valentine’s Day is around the corner but I’m definitely not writing anything related to it. Instead I decided I’m going to talk about you. Yeah! About you, it even applies to me quite evidently. Have you ever thought of knowing yourself better? Do you really know what is it which makes you happy in life or maybe what really do you believe in? So many questions about you are still unrevealed. It’s time to know yourself better, if you haven’t yet.

This time I am up with few interesting questions, which you are going to answer and know more about you. We are not going to talk about any personality test or learning about your family backgrounds, neither are we talking about your food and clothing choices or your childhood best friend. We are going to talk about who you really are at the bottom line, what lifts your spirit, what drains your happiness and so on.

I personally went through all the questions and tried answering them. Trust me, this helped me a lot in knowing myself at the core. At first, I found myself answering few of them very diplomatically but also realized being cautious to myself and knowing the answer evidently, is worse. [I tried to act smart to myself I guess 😉 ] However, my inner voice was screaming out the answers and I had to accept them.

So moving on……..

Just a little tip:  Always remember no answer is right or wrong, it is only you who is going to reveal the secrets and build a strong bond with the person within you. Whenever you are ready to do this, get rid of all the noise around you and sit back in a calm place. Take few deep breaths and just relax. Make sure you note down the answer for every question in right order. When you are done, read every answer with the corresponding questions.

 

So the questions are:

  1. What is life to me?
  2. Who matters the most to me?
  3. What lightens me up with joy?
  4. What am I proud of?
  5. What is my biggest fear?
  6. Who is the person I don’t like yet I spend time with and why?
  7. What does my inner voice tell about me?
  8. What am I grateful for?
  9. Where do I feel safe?
  10. What are the new activities am I interested or willing to try?
  11. How is my existence in this universe helping people?
  12. If a relationship or job makes me feel unhappy, do I choose to stay or leave?
  13. If I have to choose between fame and happiness, what will I choose?
  14. What do I feel about my parents?
  15. Am I grateful to people who helped me?
  16. Do I celebrate my life?
  17. Do I compare my life with others?
  18. How often do I sulk over my existence in this universe?
  19. Am I really the person who I once desired to be?
  20. Am I truthful to myself?

And that’s it. You’re done…..

I know, it’s quite tedious and boring to answer questions but when you start doing, it picks up pace and yet in time becomes quite interesting and even fun. These answers may be new to you or maybe hard to believe but that’s the unsaid reality.

You are gifted to do beyond your capacity. So are you loved, loving and loveable and you are more than enough. Getting to know yourself is worthwhile; I would say you can trust me on this. So, just hit it…

FIND THE PERSON WITHIN YOU!!!!

DO COMMENT AND SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCE DISCOVERING YOURSELF

 

 

 

 

 

GUY FRIENDS: fidus Achates FOREVERMORE…

GUY FRIENDS: fidus Achates FOREVERMORE…

“Bye”, I said a bit hesitant and low-spirited, knowing that we were not going to meet again, at least not till we were told to jam for the next gig. “Facebook pe ho?” (Are you on Facebook?), he said leaving me astounded. “Haan? Yeah I use it.”, I said. How could I be so thickheaded? How can I give an inapt and a half-baked answer. Yes, I am on Facebook was sufficient.

Drop it, that is bygone anyway.  After hunting each other on Facebook, the next 5 months we spent in knowing one another the best way possible and eventually disclosing each others SWOT (STRENGTH, WEAKNESS, and OPPORTUNITIES & THREATS).

Years passed and time flew and the tale continued…….

Who is a GUY FRIEND?

A guy who listens to his girl friend (precisely a friend who is a girl) any time she needs an ear, no matter how bad it breaks his heart that she’s crying over another guy when he knows she would be completely happy with him at whatever cost on his part. He’s always there when no one else is, just to watch her go find another one to stomp on her self-esteem. But, nonetheless, he stays and waits to be the shoulder she cries on. Basically, the guy best friend a girl should have.

Talking about me, I am a chaotic person who is a self-observer and a staunch solitary lover. All my previous days were home-bound that I never thought of exploring something new. Friends, yeah I had then but extremely limited. Think of a teenager home-bound, monotonous, unstipulating, and puzzled, that was exactly me. If I had to explain about my guy friend’s ingress in my life, I would say, he is the unusual raindrop on a dry land. Puzzling right? Imagine the raindrops touching that dry and gloomy land which makes the entire panorama lively and divine. He was the raindrop on my shriveled land lacking high spirited fun.

Every time we went out I thought it is just a normal day out, of course it was but we were unknowingly creating memories, the best ones of my life. No guy wants a girl to be around who is totally monotonous when he already has better people to be with. If somebody does that, catch hold of them and never let them go, you found your raindrop.

Looking back makes me feel nostalgic. A little goes a long way. As said, guy friends are fun bombs that explodes into happiness allowing you to find the real you. This fun bomb brought out the joyous side of me giving me a reason to love myself and taught what life and people can do to you. Things change and scenario differ but does that makes them fall apart? No I guess not sure though. If you have such a person then value the friendship so much that they never feel deserted.  Always keep it a point to learn lessons and never repeat the same mistake.Now that I have been struck by reality and learnt what life is, I won’t go back to repeat the selfsame mistake to stain my beautiful little life with blemishes.

We all have wings and we all know how to fly but the heavy weight that restrains us from flying is the terror of letting go and being misunderstood miserably. Take courage and cut off the chains and soar high to reach destinations unknown. Live life, king size.

To all the guy friends out there, you are doing great so CHEERS TO YOUR FRIENDSHIP.

To lay it on the line, this area is bit cliché to write upon but this is a practical requisite that gets me going through all ups and down, so here is one scribbled.

NO GRUDGES, NO HOSTILITY AND NO HARD!!!!

 Guy friends are fun bombs which can explode anytime to make you happy and gleeful. 

                            – The Tyro Scribbler

CHANGE: WHAT’S SO TIZZY ABOUT IT?

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Hey folks!

Thank you for scanning my previous post and encouraging me to write more. All your comments and reviews are being valued and used in the betterment of scribbling fresh.

So, I am back with another post but this time it is a bit different from the previous one. In this post I choose to connect with you, the enthusiastic one reading this.  I have a recommendation before you read any further. I recommend you to think of an answer every time I put up a question and then read further. Is that fair? Great, so here we go……

What is Change?

Remember what I recommended? Did you think of an answer? Yes? Sure?

So, the universal definition of change according to the oxford dictionary is, ‘Make or become different’. If I had to quote my answer to this question, then I would define CHANGE as ‘to become different or to undergo an alteration’. You may or may not agree with my definition as this word has so many dimensions. Places change, preference change, trend change, seasons change, conditions change, people change, you change and even I change.

Before I started to scribble, I asked for opinions from so many of them to know what exactly they feel about change and I gradually observed that they all had a very unique way of defining the term, despite it being the same.

Changing for good is an optimistic case whereas; the other should be treated as a contrary of the same. A change can count to be a good one if it results in being a boon to the pertaining matter and similarly it can be considered as a change for bad if it is a stumbling block for others around.

Just to narrow it down, let’s talk about the change observed in people. Why do you think people change? Thought of an answer? If you did, then let’s take it forward. I have a perception that people change because they really want to be different from being the monotonous one or maybe just fond of acquiring a new penchant.

Many a times you find yourself in a situation where you find it difficult to accept and welcome the new change in people. People’s change can be catastrophic to you but think of the other aspect. Every coin has two sides so does every occurrence has two aspects. The change that made you feel downcast may prove to be a good change for the other person and for you. As quoted in the BIBLE-

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Ecclesiastes 3:1

It is now quite evident that everything changes for a reason and there is a fixed time for everything to change. Never be so dependent on any person that you can never accept the change but feel despaired. Another quick thought that passes across my mind when I think of the change observed in people is ‘EXPECTATIONS LEAD TO DISAPPOINTMENT’. Think of the situation where you expect so much from a person who fails to keep up to your expectation just because the person has adopted new changes. This change leaves you disappointed. The bible says in PROVERBS 26:11 – ” As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly.” The habit of a dog is to go back and consume the discarded puke and the habit of a fool is to repeat the same absurd act again and again. The only spot where we are at fault is after experiencing so much, we go back to square one. Even after knowing people change with time, we fail to understand this and go back to repeat the same old process of expecting too much from the same person who changed long back and we end up being disappointed again.
This change somewhere or the other becomes an inevitable part of life that the feeling of being left out slowly fades away. The very essence of life is to ACCEPT & MOVE ON. Start believing in yourself, if you haven’t yet. Trust me, once you start to feel less perturbed about the change, you’ll become more comfortable with the change and may even find tranquility. This change for sure would enable you to explore yourself and find a new charm in life to be joyous and ecstatic. NEVER FORGET, CHANGE IS BEAUTIFUL AND YOU MIGHT HAVE PEACE AND ASSURANCE IN THE FACT THAT THE ONE WHO CREATED YOU NEVER CHANGES. 

DO COMMENT AND SHARE YOUR VIEWS……

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There is a humorous anecdote behind every blog I write. The previous night before this post was published, I was in a call with a friend and out of no where I happened to ask him , ” What is Change?” just to know his opinion and collect ideas for the post. He got so much into the question that he said, “It is the term for money where the banknotes are changed to coins”. This honest and spontaneous answer of him left us laughing for the next few minutes. Later, I explained about the change I was talking about and then got to gather ideas from his opinion. CHANGE IS BEAUTIFUL.

– Evlyn Nisha

The ‘I desire to love & be loved’ notion and the Ambitious Mind. 

Every person has a desire to love and be loved. Whenever spoken about love the first thought across your mind is your LOVE, the special someone or explicitly the one who has been occupying your mind totally gratuitous or unpaid 24×7.To love and be loved can happen at any given point of life but your MIND, the ambitious one, is left deserted.

What is LOVE? have you ever thought of a definition? Love cannot be defined as it has various dimensions, perceptions and images. I would probably define it as a strong feeling of affection with a great interest and pleasure which makes a person, feel content. ( My own definition, if I was to define it). Surprisingly there is a place where the main characteristics of LOVE were inscribed way back , and it is in the Holy Bible.

1Corinthians 13:4-8, describes the characteristics of LOVE as: 

 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

One great love exists that can never be replaced, the love of God which saved us, which liberates us and completes us in all possible ways. His love is irreplaceable and endless. He never differentiates between people but loves them all endlessly; ENDLESS LOVE or as quoted in Hindi ASEEM MOHABBAT.

As the characteristics itself apprehend the meaning of love. The next huge question that pops up is, why is it easy to be carried away by love while the intellectualism still plays a vital role in chasing your dreams? Before you think any further let me tell you the nous. Love makes one feel content and wants him to love and be loved. The idea of loving can go absolutely flawed if it is not well studied and understood.

On the contrary, AMBITION can be defined as a strong will to do or achieve a fixed goal. Ambitions are meant to be achieved. They are not meant to be deserted for the sake of any other cause. A person can be remarkably ambitious but when the notion of LOVE crosses the path, ambitions slowly seems to be fading.

 

Life is a journey where the least used path leads to a beautiful destination unknown and the frequently used ones also leads to a destination but an acquainted one. Here the frequently used path is the desire to love and be loved, where the other is your ambitious MIND.

The choice is yours to take either of the paths or I would like to suggest you to take your mind and intellectualism  along with the ‘I desire to love and be loved’ notion. The idea of leaving your mind deserted while following the love notion is a very old phenomena whose roads leads to lost ambitions and goals.

Change the tradition, break the chain and be a forerunner. Find love, fall madly in love and never forget your ambitions. The magical ingredient to be stuffed in your partner is to help and support you to chase the big fat dreams of yours.  Persuade each other to hunt and pursue your very own dreams. Just as responsibility and authority goes hand in hand, make it possible for love and mind to go hand in hand.

The ‘I desire to love and be loved ‘ notion with hunting and pursuing the ambitious dreams, would be a blockbuster. So, become the forerunner and lead the way to a new and a very happening life…. 

 

I am beholden to SAM CHRISTY VARGHESE, the only person behind this tyro scribbler who tried to understand the whole tangled thought process and helped me put it down in a more precise way. Bhaiya, this was never possible without you. THANK YOU – The Tyro Scribbler (Evlyn)